psychologist & author (1944- )
Feeling essentially superior to other people is as sure a sign of poor self-esteem as feeling essentially inferior.
HARRIET LERNER
Twitter post, October 24, 2014
Men are often (though not always) the pursuers for sex, just like women are often (though not always) the pursuers for conversation.
HARRIET LERNER
Marriage Rules: A Manual for the Married and the Coupled Up
Fear is a message--sometimes helpful, sometimes not--but often conveying critical information about our beliefs, our needs, and our relationship to the world around us.
HARRIET LERNER
Fear and Other Uninvited Guests
Your children are not little mirrors reflecting back the good or bad job you've done.
HARRIET LERNER
Twitter post, May 17, 2014
When anxiety disrupts functioning, it's psychiatric illness.
HARRIET LERNER
Twitter post, December 6, 2014
If you exchanged wedding vows, tape them to your bathroom mirror and read them aloud to yourself every morning along with the ritual brushing of teeth. It's not realistic to believe that you will live your promises as a daily practice -- unless you're a saint or a highly evolved Zen Buddhist. Not where marriage is concerned. But you can make a practice of returning to your vows when the going gets rough.
HARRIET LERNER
"Returning To Your Wedding Vows", Huffington Post, April 2, 2012
I've yet to meet the person who aspires to be phony or invisible in her closest relationships.
HARRIET LERNER
The Dance of Connection