quotations about identity
I suppose everyone continues to be interested in the quest for the self, but what you feel when you’re older, I think, is that -- how to express this -- you really must make the self. It's absolutely useless to look for it, you won’t find it, but it’s possible in some sense to make it.
MARY MCCARTHY
The Paris Review, winter-spring 1962
Even a mirror will not show you yourself, if you do not wish to see.
ROGER ZELAZNY
Lord of Light
You are what you are, not what others would have you be.
ANNE RICE
The Wolves of Midwinter
You cannot spend your life wanting to be someone else, snipping off pieces of yourself you don't like, and suddenly expect, upon reaching a goal, to be confident, self-accepting, rooted like an oak tree in your being.
GENEEN ROTH
Appetites: On the Search for True Nourishment
The endless story that we construct to make sense of our lives must inevitably include the author as actor, object, observer, and setting, and there is only so much coherence you can expect from a story like that.
CARL BEREITER
Education and Mind in the Knowledge Age
I don't need to worry about identity theft because no one wants to be me.
JAY LONDON
Business Law Today
Know thyself. A maxim as pernicious as it is ugly. Whoever studies himself arrests his own development. A caterpillar who seeks to know himself would never become a butterfly.
ANDRE GIDE
Autumn Leaves
It is terrible to destroy a person's picture of himself in the interests of truth or some other abstraction.
DORIS LESSING
The Grass Is Singing
Every fellow is really two men -- what he is and what he might be; and you're never absolutely sure which you're going to bury till he's dead.
GEORGE HORACE LORIMER
Old Gorgon Graham
The world knows what you seem; it does not know what you are.
WALTER BAGEHOT
The English Constitution
What happens if you drop all the things that make you I?
GRAHAM GREENE
The End of the Affair
Each man must have his I; it is more necessary to him than bread.
CHARLES HORTON COOLEY
Human Nature and the Social Order
Whatever you are physically ... male or female, strong or weak, ill or healthy--all those things matter less than what your heart contains. If you have the soul of a warrior, you are a warrior. Whatever the color, the shape, the design of the shade that conceals it, the flame inside the lamp remains the same. You are that flame.
CASSANDRA CLARE
Clockwork Angel
I have a certain way of being in this world, and I shall not, I shall not be moved.
MAYA ANGELOU
Phenomenal Woman
Sex ... or lack thereof ... is at the center of everyone's identity, and once you've cracked someone's desires, you understand them in full.
ARIANNE COHEN
Marie Claire Magazine, March 2008
It is not a slight thing, gentlemen, to force a man to say what he is, or what he believes himself to be; for that supreme word of man, that single expression which he utters of and upon himself is decisive. It lays down the basis upon which all judgment of him is to be formed. From that moment all the acts of his life must correspond to the answer given by him.
HENRI-DOMINIQUE LACORDAIRE
Jesus Christ: Conferences Delivered at Notre Dame in Paris
The social self is simply any idea, or system of ideas, drawn from the communicative life, that the mind cherishes as its own.
CHARLES HORTON COOLEY
Human Nature and the Social Order
There was a new voice which you slowly recognized as your own, that kept you company as you strode deeper and deeper into the world.
MARY OLIVER
"The Journey", Dream Work
We are reduced to asking others what we are. We never dare to ask ourselves.
JEAN-JACQUES ROUSSEAU
Discourse on Inequality
Be careful who you pretend to be. You might forget who you are.
ANONYMOUS